Sunday, June 17, 2012

Happy Father's Day

This post is for the good Dads out there who love their kids, spend time with them, support them (in every sense of the word). For the Dads who take time to cherish the gift they've been given. Happy Father's Day to them, they are MEN and they deserve this day, hell, they deserve much more than a day. I love my Dad, and can't imagine not having him in my life.

However, this post is not just for those fantastic Dads. It's for those shitty ass Dads who make babies and don't take time to even care. Those Dads who either have one kid they ignore, or ten. The Dads who don't pay child support and don't think they "owe" anything to that child that is half of them. Happy Father's Day to them too.

I know some of you may be thinking-WTF?!?! So, let me explain. The good Dads out there, don't need me to say it, although I did because they deserve it. They will have someone (or a lot of someones) telling them all day long. They are wonderful fathers, and are recognized everyday. I'm going to take the time to recognize those who are bad fathers and aren't recognized. I'm doing it because, they should be. Point them out, announce to the world, tell them Happy Father's Day-make them see they ARE fathers. Whether they like it or not, they are. We ignore these scumbag dads who ignore the life they took part in creating. WHY?

Why do we let them get off so easy? We shouldn't. There are far too many kids out there with single moms who are the only support those children have, they work their asses off and they come home to play two roles-mom and dad. It's not fair. So don't say-Why should I tell that deadbeat Happy Father's Day? Acknowledge him, force him to remember that he IS a father.

My niece and nephew's dad is the defenition of a deadbeat. He has 8 kids (counting my niece and nephew) and he doesn't support any of them. Never spends time with them, doesn't call to talk to them, or even send a birthday card. My sister works hard to give them everything they need and make up for what they miss out on because they don't have a dad. She isn't always successful, but she does her best. Thing with my niece and nephews dad...no one makes him take notice. His family puts him on a pedestal and blames the mothers of his children for why he's not a real dad. You can't do that. If you know a Dad who makes excuses for why he's crappy, take a moment today to say-Hey, Happy Father's Day. Because he needs to realize he's a father.

That is why this post is dedicated to EVERY man who has a child...HAPPY FATHER'S DAY!

By the way- Happy Father's Day to the MOMs out there who play both roles. I'm one of those moms, I know it gets tough, REALLY tough sometimes. Just make sure you don't ignore the "man" who made you have to play both roles. Make sure he doesn't "forget."

(Sorry for the bit of ranting that went on there.)

And again, Happy Father's Day :)

7 comments:

welcome to my world of poetry said...

Wonderful post, I didn't know my dad as he passed away when I three years old. so this is for all the people who didn't spend much time with their dads. Thank you.

Yvonne.

Alex J. Cavanaugh said...

Kela, you are so right! Take responsibility for what you've done, dads.

Jemi Fraser said...

Love this Kela! I was always one of the lucky ones - but as a teacher, I see far too many kids who grow up without a strong, positive male influence.

SC Author said...

This is great! Too many times we forget about those who have the deadbeat dads out there. It's sad, and people have to know more about it, because there are two aspects to Father's Day.

Kela McClelland said...

Yvonne- So sorry you didn't get to know your dad. And I hope you still have a wonderful Sunday :)

Alex-YES! There are so many, it's sad.

Jemi- I am not a teacher, but I can only imagine how many kids you must see who have no father. It's sad. :(

SC- Yes, definitely. We all celebrate the good dads out there while the crappy ones are undercover, pretending they have no kids and it irritates me.

Thanks y'all for stopping by. I hope each of you has an AWESOME Sunday. :)

Christine Rains said...

I completely agree with you. It's not just the deadbeat dads' fault, but everyone needs to stand up about it. Every child deserves it. Have a wonderful Sunday!

E.B. Black said...

Powerful words!