Saturday, February 25, 2012

Men, Kids, Friends, and Laptops

Oh the week I've had. It's been great and horrible all wrapped up together nice and neat-or not so neat. WILD is the best way to explain the ride i've been on all week. Between trying to better organize myself, CRAZYYYYY kids, attitudes (from everyone myself included), my asshole ex, and all things writer related...this week has been exhausting. I hit bottom, fell through, and haven't stopped falling.

I'm okay though, i can handle it. Everything will balance out eventually. Last Saturday I ranted about details. What did you say? You didn't read it? Oh, well, It's right here. :) This week, so many things went wrong, and so many things went right that I'm going to do a mix of ranting and excited talk.

First off, let me just say-Men: If you make a child or children, please take care of them. And I don't mean just sometimes care about them, I mean ALL the time. My ex is a great dad in the sense that he absolutely loves our kids. And I mean, truly unconditionally loves them. The problem is that he also unconditionally loves himself. He thinks that as long as our kids are provided for, he doesn't need to give me any money for them. Yeah, doesn't work that way. I don't care if the mother of your child, or children is the most famous best-selling author-you still need to provide for them. It may suck, but you do. And please do NOT pass up an opportunity to spend time with them because you want to go out instead. I mean damn, your child(ren) should ALWAYS come first. You should NEVER chose hanging out with friends over them-it just shouldn't happen. UGH! Please men (and women who know men that have kids) never put anything before your kids.

Now, on to more pleasant things....I did a lot of connecting this week and it felt great. Maybe I'm a little lame, but I don't have many friends outside of my online friends. I don't do much that would allow me to connect with people outside of the internet and the TWO friends I have (who have been my friends for almost 15 years) don't live anywhere near me. So, whatever friends I connect with online are what make up my circle of friends.
Something else-For the time being, my house is completely cleaned. It's usually clean, but with two little ones, it doesn't stay that way. There are always a sink-full of dishes, floors that need swept and mopped, a lot of dirty clothes (especially since my 3yo hates being dirty and changes her clothes frequently), and more. It takes a lot of work to keep up with the house, as I'm sure anyone else with kids understands. But this week, I was able to get more help from my kids and we kept the house clean. All that's on the cleaning list for this weekend is sweep, mop, and laundry. It makes me feel good and means that I have more time to play with the kiddos and hopefully keep them from being as crazy.
One last thing that made me enjoy this week-I got through a lot of my critiques, although I still have some to do before tomorrow, I'm still proud of what I did get done.

I'm adding one more thing that was irritating this week. Well, truly this has been happening for almost 3 weeks now, just gradually getting worse. My laptop (which is a mini) is unhappy. I don't know exactly what the hell is going on with it, but it's soooooooooooooooo slow. It takes me forever to get anything done on it. Each day this week it has gotten worse. I'm tired of the slowness and I was already starting to dislike the size of it, so I'm going to move on. It probably won't happen for about a month or so, but I'm going to get a new laptop. I think when I do, I will let the girls play some games on it.

Anyway, that was my week. If you have a headache just reading this, be positive, trust me-it's much worse if  its happening to you.

Happy Saturday :)


Jemi Fraser said...

Yikes! I hope next week is better!

As both a mom and a teacher, I totally agree that kids need to come first (always) with both parents - whether they live together or not. I've taught far too many kids who don't come anywhere near the top of the list. It breaks my heart every time.

Take care!!

Kela McClelland said...

Jemi- Ugh, I hope I do too. I mean, the week wasn't completely horrible, but I would have been okay with a little better. And yeah, I know some kids like that too. It is so sad.

I hope you had a good week and that you have a good one next week :)

Alex J. Cavanaugh said...

Hope this week is better.
No kids to ignore, so I'm covered there. I don't ignore my wife, either.

Kela McClelland said...

Alex- Thanks, I hope so too. My weekend improved slightly, so fingers crossed. And yay that you don't ignore your wife :)